My name is Ian Baird and as a civil celebrant I conduct services for those who choose not to have a religious funeral. I am a semi–retired primary school teacher who began conducting civil ceremonies after composing and delivering the service for my dear mother in 2010.
Following a bereavement, family and friends may have a clear picture of the type of funeral ceremony they or their loved one wanted but be unable to conduct the occasion themselves. My role is to act as your voice at a very difficult time, organising and delivering that service on your behalf ensuring that your plans and expectations are met.
The funeral service is the last act you can perform for your loved one and therefore it has to be absolutely right. From personal experience I recognise that regular, direct personal contact and rapid communication with the family is essential at every stage of the planning of the ceremony. With this understanding and by remaining flexible, I have always maintained contact with those people organising the funeral through phone calls and emails. This allows me to respond to alterations, queries and requests as quickly as possible.
The order of the service, what comes where and when, is entirely a matter for you, the family; likewise the content of what is said and the music that is played. If members of the family, or indeed friends and colleagues, wish to take part in the service, they are welcome. However, the time allowed for the funeral is governed by the rules of the crematorium so I will endeavour to include as much as possible within those temporal constraints.
It is my intention to offer you a truly personalised, unique and thoroughly professional service. If I can be of help to you at this time, please contact me through G. Roberts Independent Family Funeral Directors or directly by phone: 07887 365790
Do you require a Eulogy?
Whether your funeral is religious or secular a fitting Eulogy is essential. If you require assistance in writing an appropriate Eulogy for the deceased let me offer my services to help you organise your thoughts and set down on paper what you want to say.
What is required?
A meeting needs to be arranged at the earliest opportunity to discuss the matter and gather appropriate information about the deceased. An initial draft will be forwarded to you to be checked for accuracy and suitability. Once this is done and any alterations made, a further draft will be sent for scrutiny.
This process can continue until you are satisfied then a final copy will be sent to you for the person conducting the funeral service or it can be emailed directly to them.
I‘m Steve Emmett and I am accredited by the British Humanist Association to create and lead non–religious, personalised ceremonies. I work primarily in North and East Yorkshire, including Hull and the Humber, but I will travel anywhere if requested.
I will work with you and your funeral director to create a unique ceremony, an event that will be a fitting tribute to your loved one, and a lasting memory.
Some assume that because a ceremony is non–religious it is about being negative, but this could not be more wide of the mark. Humanist ceremonies are uplifting events, each one unique to the family and their loved ones, reflecting their lives, hopes, achievements and relationships.
I begin with a visit to meet you in the familiar surroundings of your own, or your loved one‘s, home, to learn about the deceased and his or her life, from which I carefully craft a ceremony that paints an accurate and rounded picture of the person. We will include carefully chosen words and music, elements that draw on the highs (and lows) of the one you have lost, to produce a ceremony that will be very much about the individual and their influences. I will consult with you at every stage, providing draft copies until you are completely satisfied. On the day of the funeral you can rely on me to be there early to check that all is ready, and to deliver the ceremony with dignity and the appropriate tone. I will leave you with a presentation copy of the ceremony, a keepsake that can be treasured.
A bit about me for those who want to know...
I live in the market town of Malton, ideal for serving all of Yorkshire, and am an accredited BHA Celebrant. I was a finalist in the Good Funeral Awards 2014, nominated for Celebrant of the Year. I was born in Harrogate but have spent most of my adult life running my own businesses in London and Italy. Now back in Yorkshire I find being a celebrant and serving my local community to be the most rewarding thing I have ever done. If you want to know more, please visit: Steve Emmett's website or simply ask G. Roberts Independent Family Funeral Directors to put you in touch with me.
Biography D Bairstow
I was born In Scarborough to Sam and Barbara Bairstow, I have an older brother Andrew .My parents had a butchers shop in the town so most people know of Sam Bairstow’ pork pies, of which I made thousands! I was educated in Scarborough at Friarage and Raincliffe schools.
After leaving school I worked in a Residential home for the elderly and at the age of 18 commenced my Nurse training in Scarborough. Shortly after qualifying I started working in the Community as a District Nurse which I did for 6 years and enjoyed meeting so many different people from all walks of life, providing all aspects of care at home.
In 1988 I left Scarborough with my then partner. Over the next thirteen years I lived and travelled extensively around the Pacific Rim living in China, Hong Kong, Australia, Indonesia, Saipan and Vietnam, which I feel empowered me to have a better understanding of the world.
n 2002 we eventually returned to Scarborough. I decided that I should stay in Scarborough but work off shore as a medic. I worked alone having the health of all the workers as my main responsibility, also being on 24-hour cover for 21 days in case of emergencies.
My plan had always been to finish off shore this year, last year I started thinking about what I might like to do. On reflection, I needed something where I could be of help to others in a meaningful way and at the same time gain some satisfaction in doing so. Realising I had always had found job satisfaction when caring for terminally ill patients and their relatives I felt that by becoming a celebrant would enable me to spend more time to be able to provide a satisfactory and meaningful support role and ensure the family are able to have a heartfelt Farwell to their loved ones. Hence this is how I found myself embarking on this new journey.
I feel it is important that bereaved families should be supported, helped and guided through this sad and difficult time, by assisting with the final part of the loved one’s journey, their Ceremony of life.
Often a person who has never had to deal with this before, may find it very daunting and ceremonial, well it need not be, it can be whatever you feel you might like, favourite music, photos, funny stories, sentimental moments, bright coloured dress code, this final ceremony needs to be something people can remember the good times spent and fond memories rather than the pure grief of the moment.
Therefore, I would feel privileged in working side by side with the George, Christine and the team at ‘Roberts’ in guiding and supporting you at this sad time. I am happy to meet you at a time and place convenient to you and myself. I would also like to assure you that you would be invited to read the content of the ceremony prior to the day, hence we can work together to achieve what your relative may have requested or what you think is appropriate.
Debbie Bairstow RN
Graham, Christine or George will be pleased to assist you with
any queries you may have about funerals.
You can contact them on 01723 - 501027 (24 hours)
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